He's not ditching his bros, he's growing up.
A man doesn't ditch his "bros" for a girl, a boy does. A man finds a partner, and that woman isn't just his homemaker, dinner cooker, date night go-with-er...
She is his best friend too.
When a man "grows up”, he obtains responsibilities. That doesn't mean that he can't still have fun and enjoy his hobbies. That doesn't mean he can't hang out with his friends, sans girlfriend.
But with growth comes change, and change can be a good thing. When a man has a family, he finds strength in knowing that he will provide for them in certain ways. Though my significant other and I split everything down the middle, there are still many things that men can do that women can't, shouldn't, or choose not to. I have watched the guy that I love become the man that many women dream of. No, not because I have changed him or wanted him to change, but because when a man finds the woman who was made for him, God gives him the tools to turn that relationship into all you've ever dreamed of.
I've seen him grow, change, and excel at many things. A man that God designed perfectly for me. He has gone from occasionally enjoying “guy nights” to spending evenings working until dark with a spotlight to be able to see while working on the septic system, all after working an eight hour workday, working with his bare hands to build a house for us to call home one day. That is a man. There maybe judgment based upon our timeline… The fact that marriage hasn't happened does not change the fact that he does everything in this world to provide the best life for myself and my little girl. I often hear of a guys buddies complaining that "a girl" is the reason that they choose not to be around anymore or that they're not allowed to do bro things because their girl is bi***ing. BUT here's the thing y'all, sometimes it's the MAN'S choice. A choice to step up and become better for those he loves and for himself.
Again, this doesn't mean someone shouldn't still have time with friends, or to enjoy hobbies of their own. I am not saying that AT ALL. Trust me, hunting season in my home is a lonely time (LOL) - but I'm okay with that and I love that he loves doing it! I also utilize it as “me time" (when I'm not hunting too!). I use that time for mani+pedis, lunch with a girlfriend, or shopping. That's part of growing up though … time management.
Maybe the next time you wanna give your buddy or friend a hard time about spending too much time with their significant other.. think about how hard they are working to build their future. Love is a beautiful, sacred thing, that we are so blessed to experience.