Ladies: Stop Expecting & Comparing.
1. the act of comparing.
2. the state of being compared.
Comparison. One of the most evil parts of human life.
Friendship, motherhood, relationships, family life, religion... All of these things fail when comparison is added to the equation.
1. a strong belief that something will happen or be the case in the future.
The second most dangerous thing you can do to your life. Expecting something to happen is the main reason you feel discouraged if, in fact, it doesn't happen. If you did not expect it, then you would never hurt when it didn't come to fruition.
Motherhood is when I really learned how painful comparison & expectation can be to your daily life, if you allow it. As a mother it's easy to compare. Social media is filled with it. There's the mothers who dropped their baby weight 12 seconds after walking out of the Labor & Delivery at the hospital. The moms who have the baby that sleeps through the night from the first day. The mom who has a full face of make-up, perfectly tousled curls, and an outfit on that Anna Wintour would be jealous of. The mom that breastfeeds till their kid is in college, and they produce enough to effectively nourish all the children in the world. The mom that feeds her kids all organic, fresh, no sugar added, GMO free foods 24/7. Come on y'all, you've been here, wondering how the he** is it possible to be SO PERFECT?!?
Maybe you are one of the moms described above, and if you are... More power to you! I respect and commend you.
The problem is: 99% of the time this isn't possible. Life happens. You're tired. Your body has completely changed. Where things used to perk, now they sag. You don't have time to go to the gym. You may have never had a milk supply sufficient enough to nourish your child. You may not have time to pump, so formula it is. By the time you get your mini humans dressed - TWICE because blow outs & vomit happen 24/7 these days - you only have the energy to throw on leggings & a T-shirt that you could fit 2 of yourself in.
This is real life. AND this is OKAY. Don't compare your mothering to what other moms are doing, Don't expect to live up to their lifestyle standards. Why? Because that's not your life. That's the beautiful thing about life. You create your own journey & have the ability to make it as positive or negative as you want.
You are beautiful. Even if your pant size doubled. Even if you never touch a makeup brush to your face. You are beautiful because you have someone who needs you to survive this crazy life. You have someone that looks to you for love, happiness, and safety. You are beautiful because you are raising someone and molding them into someone who will be a part of the next generation.
Ease up on yourself momma. This is your life, not theirs.